What Makes a Person Worth Something?

I have been thinking about the underlying assumptions that led to the college admission scandals that have recently come to light. I am not up on all the details but basically it sounds as if folks were paying bribes to get their children into schools into which they would not have otherwise been accepted. I read an article about a young woman who was recruited to be on one of the top women’s college soccer teams in the country despite never having played soccer before. They never put her in a game but being recruited for the soccer team was apparently her ticket into the school.

There are a lot of issues involved. One is that the students whose families bribed their way into these schools made fewer spaces available for deserving students. Another is access to college in general as prices have soared. Even without having to compete with bribery, college feels out of reach for many families due to the expense. And there are also discrepancies in opportunity for college preparation based on school systems, etc.

And I wonder why admission to an “elite” school is so valued? Certainly some schools are generally better than others. And each school has its strengths and weaknesses. But there are a lot of places one can get a good education. Among other strengths, my undergraduate alma mater, Eastern Mennonite University, is incredibly successful at getting premed students prepared for and accepted into medical school. But no one is bribing their way into being admitted there.

But the part I find most disturbing is the message this sends to the student whose parents bribed her way into school. Essentially, the parents are saying “Who you are is not good enough for what we want you to be.” What must that do to the person being “helped?” Imagine the effect of having your parents pay a large sum of money to make you “good enough.” Are her parents going to bribe her way through the rest of life as well? It sounds like a perfect set-up for a lifetime of frustration, trying to be something she is not, always having to prove her worth.

One’s worth is not based on what college one attended or whether one went to college at all. When one of our children did not get accepted into their first choice university, there was some disappointment. But the other response was “It’s probably good. I’m not sure I could have kept up there anyway.” I thought this was an extremely wise and self-aware statement for an adolescent to make.

I have nothing against “elite” schools. I know lots of folks who have gone to them who are kind, generous, smart, and hard-working. But I also know folks who are all of those things who went to state schools, small liberal arts colleges, community college, trade school, and no college at all. We are all different with different strengths and weaknesses and it takes all types to make society work.

Encourage your children to pursue their strengths and interests. And always remind them of their inherent value as a person; not because they are the best, smartest, prettiest or whatever, but because they are who they are.

Please don't "bring back our childhood diseases"

In response to the current outbreak of measles in Washington, the spouse of a prominent U.S. government official recently tweeted this:

“Bring back our #ChildhoodDiseases they keep you healthy and fight cancer”

Here are some reasons I think that is a really bad idea:

·         Measles causes death in 1 to 3 of every 1000 reported cases in the United States and acute encephalitis, which often causes permanent brain damage, occurs in approximately one out of a thousand cases. It is one of the most contagious of all infectious diseases.

·         Rubella (German measles) during pregnancy can result in miscarriage, fetal death, or a host of birth defects involving the eyes, heart, ears, and brain.

·         Polio can cause an acute paralysis in childhood at the time of infection which can lead to respiratory failure and 25-40% of persons who had polio as a child develop a slow, irreversible muscle weakness decades after the original infection.

·         Diphtheria is fatal in 5-10% of cases, often by causing strangulation by the swelling and obstruction of one’s airway.

·         Pertussis (whooping cough) causes a severe cough that can last 10 weeks or more and two thirds of infants with Pertussis are hospitalized. One in one hundred infants younger than two months of age with Pertussis die. Other complications include seizures, fainting, broken ribs (from coughing so hard), and pneumonia.

·         Haemophilus influenzae (not “the flu”) causes a variety of infections including pneumonia, meningitis, bloodstream infections, epiglottitis (an infection of the upper airway which can cause swelling which obstructs the windpipe), infected joints, skin infections, etc. Prior to introduction of the Hib vaccine, this was the most common cause of bacterial meningitis in children. Since introduction of the vaccine, H. Flu infections have decreased by 99%.

·         Pneumococcus causes a variety of different serious infections in children including severe pneumonia, bloodstream infections, and meningitis. Serious infections with pneumococcus have decreased by 76% in the U.S. since the introduction of the vaccine.

·         Rotavirus causes vomiting, diarrhea and fever which can last for up to seven days. Since introduction of the vaccine, hospitalizations for Rotavirus in the U.S. have decreased by 75% (40,000 to 50,000 fewer children hospitalized each year).

And childhood diseases do not "keep you healthy and fight cancer" either.

Data source: AAP, Report of the Committee on Infectious Diseases, 31^st Edition